5 Unexpected Libido Boosters You Need
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I had three separate people come up to me and whisper their love of The S*x Talk. While one of the most vulnerable podcast series I’ve recorded to date, I am constantly reminded of the need for healthy s*x conversations.
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Sexual health is a vital part of the human body, which is why it’s also a vital part of the health of our mind, body, and soul. At the same time, it’s probably one of the things we talk about the least.
But we’re going to change that. We’re going to create healthy conversations, break stigmas, and create a positive understanding and lifestyle around intimacy.
To break the ice with this topic, we’re going to talk libido — because it may just be the early Christmas present to yourself (and your spouse) you didn’t know you needed.
While there is some conflicting evidence, some research indicates a seasonal pull toward greater intimacy during the winter months. Although, of course, with the increasing rates of seasonal depressive disorder, this has changed. We’re going to talk about that next week and why I don’t think anyone needs to suffer through that.
But for now, let’s get to those libido boosters every woman (and, truthfully, man) needs to know.
5 Libido Boosters Every Woman Should Know
We must break the stigma around libido. And yes, around s*x education too (which, in my opinion, is still seriously lacking). You may have noticed that after the podcast’s most popular series, The S*x Talk, aired, there was a lot of chatter about this topic.
While I’m working on season two of The S*x Talk, I think it’s worth revisiting a few key principles. One being, women do not have a lower libido than men. It’s just different. Expecting it to be the same is often why people assume they have a “libido problem.”
This is especially true in the Christian space, even though the Bible is explicit about sexual intimacy being a gift. Purity culture programmed many to adopt assumptions about intimacy that just aren’t true. And now we’re living in a war of confusion.
I want to help release that, because intimacy is one of God’s greatest gifts and a powerful way to experience life.
Understanding Your Libido
Getting back to libido, I want to be clear, your libido exists. It’s always there. There are times and seasons when your libido may be lower (and feel nonexistent), but that doesn’t mean you’re broken or that you have no desires. I don’t want you to agree with the thoughts that creep in, like:
“I have zero desire.”
“I never want it.”
“I just have to get through the act.”
“Women have zero desire.”
These simply aren’t true, even if they’ve felt that way.
We also need to break the stigma that leaves people believing women have a lower libido than men. They do not. In fact, some research even suggests the opposite.
The point is, one isn’t better than the other — they’re just different. Understanding those differences allows you to honor your own desire and co-create sexual intimacy in a way that’s fulfilling for both partners.
Which brings me to tip number one of five libido boosters that can boost your desire today.
I hope that article opened your eyes to understand libido differently, and outside the common thought process and stigma.
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