The Miserable Woman Trend is Over!
What it actually costs you and what comes next.
Can we talk about something for a second?
There’s been a story running through women’s culture for a while now. You know the one:
“I haven’t slept since 2012.”
“I can’t remember the last time I did something just for me.”
“I’m so busy, I don’t have time for anything else.”
“I put everyone first. That’s just what women do.”
We laugh at it. And we share in the common misery of it. It’s not just an excuse. It’s what we talk about, in some way, becoming a badge of honor.
Like being depleted meant we were good. Or that running on empty proved we loved our people well.
Our worth is often measured by how little energy we have left at the end of the day.
I get it. I did it too.
I had made ‘tired’ my identity.
And I just kept living the same way. Doing everything while simultaneously carrying the invisible weight of every schedule and every need and decision.
Of course, I talked about how hard it was. It felt so hard. I thought that was just the way it was.
Nobody told me it didn’t have to be that way. Nobody told me I didn’t have to be miserable. Nobody told me I could set it down. Nobody told me it was okay to show up for myself. That showing up wasn’t selfish. It was the opposite.
But here is what I know now and what I need you to hear: God didn’t design you to run on fumes and call that living. He didn’t design you for misery.
Yet, that is where so many of us are. Not in a crisis, just quietly and persistently functioning below the line. Almost drowning but still making it through. And it’s showing. It might look like:
The struggle to lose weight, even when you’re doing everything right.
Waking up exhausted, even after a full night of sleep.
The low-grade sadness that sits on your chest and doesn’t have a name.
The anxiety that runs quietly under everything, that you can’t switch off.
The lingering symptoms you’ve noticed, but haven’t had time to deal with (hair thinning, irregular cycle, joint aches, even before you’re old enough that it makes sense).
That feeling that you’re just barely keeping your head above water.
None of this is weakness. It’s information. It’s the reminder that you’ve been running on fumes way too long, and you don’t have to be.
You don’t have to be miserable.
Even though we’ve been fed a lie that the hardest-working women are the tired ones, it doesn’t mean that’s true. The life of a well-lived woman is not tired, exhausted, burned out, and sick. She’s vibrant, energized, and alive.
Honestly, she’s so alive that she makes life look easy.
Somewhere in the middle of my most depleted season, I decided I didn’t want to be miserable anymore. I didn’t want to feel like I was always on the verge of losing it. I didn’t want to wake up every morning already behind.
I wanted a different story.
That’s when I stopped looking for the complicated answer and came back to the simple ones. I came back to learning how to fill myself up.
That required letting go of the fancy programs and the $300 suppplement stacks that took more than they gave. I set aside the biohacking protocols and the complicated solutions designed to confuse us into buying more. And I just went back to the basics.
I started focusing on filling my tank while cutting ties with misery. That looked like:
I stopped doing laundry after my kids went to bed and started going to bed myself.
I stopped saying yes to things I had no capacity to hold.
I stopped starving my body and started to nourish it.
I stopped treating my exhaustion as a badge and started treating it as information. As a sign, my body was telling me something true that I had been ignoring for years.
And honestly, things changed (and quickly).
Which is what happens when you put more emphasis on filling yourself than fixing everything and everybody else.
Surprisingly, misery doesn’t have a leg to stand on when you stop giving it attention. Misery is like a parasite. You have to feed it to keep it.
When I stopped feeding it, an entirely new space opened up.
Which is why I want to remind you…
You don’t have to be miserable. Misery isn’t a good metric of worth.
I know you work hard. I know you’re busy. Which is why the busier you are, the more you need to fill yourself up.
You were not made to run on reserves.
The miserable women trend is not devotion. It’s depletion dressed up as virtue, and it’s costing you and the people you love everything.
This is exactly why I built The Summer Walking Club.
Permission to end the miserable-woman trend!
The Summer Walking Club is your permission to end the miserable-woman trend, while also learning how to fill yourself up, giving you the energy to make the most of life.
It’s exactly the opposite of what the health and fitness space has taught you, to sacrifice more for your becoming. This isn’t about giving up or grinding harder. This is about showing up and filling up.
I want you in. Especially if you are over the depleted women trend. And even more, if you’re tired of being tired.
Here is exactly what it is:
Three-month club (starting June 1st) built around filling your energy tank through daily walking. The simplest, most sustainable practice I know.
A real community of women (inside Circle) that aren’t competing or performing, but showing up together.
A step tracker, milestones, and prizes. Because your wins deserve some recognition.
Weekly Focus content is designed to propel you into action, not just stuff your mind.
Weekly devotionals to keep your spirit grounded while your steps add up.
Live calls and accountability with me in your corner every week
It’s not one more thing you have to give more than you have to perfect or another thing to feel guilty about.
It’s the opposite.
It’s an invitation to show up and fill up using the most ordinary, unglamorous, free, and yet deeply powerful ways I know.
RULES OF THE CLUB:
The only rules that matter are: you walk, log it, and, when you miss a day, come back.
There’s no starting over. No falling behind. No keeping a record of what you didn’t do. No feeling guilty.
For the person who feels too overwhelmed, tired, and out of time.
All of those are the exact reasons you should do this. The more overwhelmed and busy you feel, the better this is for you.
We start June 1st.
If you’re feeling resistance to this. If something in you wants to say “not now” or “I’m not ready” or “this probably won’t work for me,” hit reply and tell me what’s in the way.
I want to hear it and send you some love and advice back!
Will I see you inside the club?
Sign up here!
xx,
