Breaking Free from Health Drama
Have you ever felt like health advice makes you feel worse about yourself, not better?
A few hours after I hit send on last week's email, I felt a major conviction.
I had created an email centered on another problem. And in doing so, it's easy to feel a sense of fear creeping in.
It might have come across as just one more thing you weren't doing right. Or another hurdle that seems impossible to tackle. I know that’s a pattern in health messaging—it probably feels normal to you, but it shouldn’t be. And it’s definitely not healthy.
The irony is that when we center our health approaches around fear, we stay stuck, circulating around our problems rather than healing them.
While I wanted you to hear me say the positive (yes, you might need to eat more), it was still framed around a problem. And while we all have “problems” we want to fix, focusing on them rarely gets us to where we truly want to be.
It might feel normal, but it’s not healthy.
This got me thinking a lot about the stories we tell ourselves, which create the stories our bodies live out. Often, these aren’t even our stories—they’re learned stories.
I started to realize how few stories we hear about the positives of health: stories of how the body healed, regained energy and passions, built deeper connections, and healed hormones—not through restriction, but through nourishment.
Yes, we hear "success stories," but even those—especially from external sources—keep our minds fixated on the idea that our body is the problem. And as long as we believe that, that’s all we see.
We too often overlook the beautiful, miraculous ways our bodies are working for us every day.
The story most of us have learned to create in health is one of suffering, pain, failure, and self-hate. It’s an overdramatization of what health really should be.
Overdramatizing Health
Reflecting on my life, I’ve noticed times when I’ve overdramatized my health. Part of it, I think, was a subconscious attempt to get attention in places I didn’t feel seen (I’ll open up more about this soon because I believe it could help someone heal). But I’ve also recognized how much of the story others speak about health has impacted my journey. Maybe I didn’t necessarily struggle with it, but in some ways, I created the struggle because I had believed the struggle was expected.
I learned to expect problems and, in the process, self-created them.
I’m not saying this is true for you. However, we need to understand that how we handle what our body is going through is shaped by the story we’ve believed.
The story you tell yourself is the story your body is living.
Take menopause, for example.
I’m not there yet, but I do hear the stories. The stories of hot flashes, mood swings, weight gain, and a loss of passion. It’s a story that makes one believe menopause is the beginning of the end.
And yet, that couldn’t be further from the truth. But it becomes our truth because that’s what we’ve learned to believe, creating the outcomes we live out. When truthfully, menopause can be one of the greatest times in a woman’s life.
The same is true for a woman’s libido or even pregnancy. I mean, we have entire books devoted to outlining the problems a woman should “expect” to face each week of pregnancy. And while there may be some truth to those things — some people may experience them — I’d argue that more people don’t than do. But because that’s what we expect, that’s what we experience.
Most of what we’ve learned to consume in health has focused on problems. Because we’re so invested in the problem, we can’t see that our focus on our problems might be the actual problem.
I know this is a deep and complex connection between the mind and body, but I wanted to bring it up because the story you tell yourself matters.
If you don’t love the story your body is living—whether because of your weight, your symptoms, or your energy—it doesn’t have to stay that way. But you have to change the story your body is creating.
I recorded a podcast on this topic, and I think it’s worth a listen. How to break up with the overdramatization you’ve learned in the health space.
But I also want to remind you of what health can look like. Let’s write a better story.
Health is energy, vitality, vibrancy, strength, clarity, passion, joy, connection, life.
Yes, it might also be healthy skin, regular bowel movements, and all of the other biomarkers we can use to assess our health, but at the root, what people want from health is more than a series of markers you can track. You want health to bring you life.
Do you want to write a better “health” story?
I created Health Made Simple for this exact reason: to change the story your body is living out by changing your beliefs about health. I also teach you how to build a nourishing rhythm that energizes your body so you can fully live.
Health Made Simple teaches you how to live a bioenergetic life. It’s the shortcut to understand how to create health and energize your body at the cellular level while making peace with food.
It’s both the biological and psychological approach to health.
While you can technically join at any time (whenever you feel ready), I am offering a special opportunity to work together personally to create a personalized blueprint.
Between March and May, I will offer six group sessions. These sessions will help you learn from other course participants, including myself, where I will help you build a health plan that works for you.
**Spots are limited to create intimacy inside the live classes and offer space to work individually with me on your health plan.
Regardless, I want this to be a space where you can feel safe, learn to understand health without fear and feel safe inside your own body.
I hope this encourages you to live health differently!
xx,
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